(Excerpt from Walking in the Dust of Rabbi Jesus: How the Jewish Words of Jesus Can Change Your Life by Lois Tverberg.)
Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." Mt 7:1 NIV |
Few sayings of Jesus have caused more frustration than his words about judging. From everything else Jesus taught, we know Jesus wasn't telling us just to turn a blind eye to sin. So we struggle to find a way to sort out sin without actually calling it that, so that we won't sin by judging. Or we just file this line in the "impossible" category, like "love your enemy" — it sounds great and preaches well, but it's well nigh impossible to actually live out.
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But this teaching of Jesus grows much more applicable when we hear how it fits into the wider conversation going on among Jewish thinkers. From centuries before Jesus was born "judging" has been a topic of discussion, filtering down through the millennia to inform Jewish practice right up to today. Jesus was, in fact, building on some wise thinking and bringing it to a new level.
"Judging" in Jewish Thought
In about 120 BC, Yehoshua ben Perachia, one of the earliest rabbinic sages, shared the following wisdom: "Judge each person with the scales weighted in their favor." The saying evokes the imagery of the ancient marketplace, where a merchant measures out grain by pouring it into one pan of a hanging scale until it swings level with the weighted side. A friendly shopkeeper will heap a little extra on, letting the pans tilt past the balance point. The idea is that you should "weigh" the deeds of others on the side of generosity. Simply put, give others the benefit of the doubt...
Jesus employed a similar metaphor about judging: "A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you" (Luke 6:38). Jesus too says that we should let our scales of justice fall past the balance point, bestowing on others a little more than they deserve...
In almost every situation, a person can either look for a good or a bad motive behind other people's behavior. The way you choose to interpret others' motives has a profound effect on the way you react to them. Personally, I've found that when I make a habit of trying to "judge favorably," it transforms me into a kinder, more patient person. My attitude grows more loving when I assume the best instead of the worst about the people around me.
Jesus too says that we should let our scales of justice fall past the balance point, bestowing on others a little more than they deserve... |
I'm still working on putting this into practice, but imagine the possibilities if I consistently looked at other people in the best possible light... When I heard someone insulting my faith, I might say, "That person must have had a bad experience with the church in order to make him feel that way."
Truly, this small practice can change your entire outlook on life.
Question: What's your gut reaction to Jesus' words about judging others favorably?
(A) It's not fair!
(B) Jesus wasn't talking about the jerk I'm dealing with...
(C) It's a sobering lesson.
(D) I can vouch that this brings joy.
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Good morning Adam, what a wonder post to read this morning. I'd have to go with D. I possibly do it too much and have even been called ditsy, for my Pollyanna attitude, when I'm clearly not. Don't get me wrong, I can sin way to much with the best of them, but I usually have to be pushed for that attitude to come out.
Have a wonderful day and thank you for giving me something to ponder....Tracy @ Cotton Pickin Cute
Posted by: Tracy @ Cotton Pickin Cute | January 31, 2012 at 11:05 AM
I share the same view you share too-about thinking of their motives for their/peoples actions in the positive light. I'm in a training process of learning how not to jump into conclusion but to give them the benefit of the doubt and I tell you this has helped me in so many ways-I do not end up feeling hurt or down cast as I used to when I read negative meanings or motive behind peoples actions.
Posted by: Chima-onumajuru Adaeze Pelwis | January 31, 2012 at 11:16 AM
Chima-onumajuru: Thanks for sharing your experience with Lois's tips on giving people the benefit of the doubt. I'm glad you're finding this practice beneficial.
Tracy: Thank you for the encouragement, I appreciate it. Blessings,
Adam
Posted by: Adam Forrest (Zondervan employee) | January 31, 2012 at 12:13 PM
I have learned to call my judgments best guesses. I would never take a best guess as a final judgement but I can operate in and navigate a complex social/spiritual interactions with a best guess in mind to guide me and be guided by Holy Spirit.
God did not give us our minds to be mush but to be used, make decisions, aka judgments, aka best guesses, so we can love as Christ loved on an individual basis.
Love is not one size fits all but dynamic and alive with our mind creatively and purposefully designing ways to love God's people you come in contact with. I feel this is the spirit of Church discipline not to destroy but to restore fellowship within the Church. How would this act of grace be accomplished with out judgment?
My Judgments have changed over the years. while at the beginning I took each as flexible. Now I have found that some people have a damaging effect on me and I need to pass them off to another believer that has a different skill set than I to help them out of their problems and closer to the Lord. Still learning though!
denny
Posted by: denny | January 31, 2012 at 03:13 PM